Strong self-confidence is the best prerequisite for a happy and successful life. Confident children get along much better in life.
are more successful – if you know your strengths and don’t let your weaknesses hold you back, things are much easier at school and later in your job.
have more friends – if you dare to approach others openly and courageously, you will find friends much more easily
are healthier – those who feel valued, respected, and users are much less prone to depression, burnout, and psychosomatic illnesses
resist temptation – those who are strong enough (and can defend themselves against peer pressure, for example) are not so easily seduced into smoking or taking drugs
have fewer fears – those who believe in themselves and know that they can overcome even small defeats are more courageous and have more confidence in themselves
are more creative – those who like to try new things and are not deterred by challenges can gain a lot more experience and develop their talents
live more safely – inner strength already signals through body language that a child will not put up with everything. This is an important protection against bullying, violence, and abuse!
later have happy relationships – those who feel loved and do not constantly doubt themselves have a more positive and attractive effect on other people and thus have more harmonious relationships
go their own way – those who confidently stand up for their own wishes and goals are not so easily influenced and pushed around by others
So you see:
Confidence is the most precious gift you can ever give your child.
With the following practical tips, you will help your child to become more inner strength every day.
And the best:
You can easily implement the tips in everyday life – they do not cost a lot of time or effort, but bring a lot of fun and a good mood into your family life.
6 practical tips for self-confident children
1. Laughing together
Laughing relaxes and makes life seem much easier. Not only will your child benefit from this, but your whole family.
So laugh as much as possible. Children laugh a lot more than adults anyway – let yourself be infected by it. Above all, horrific handling of small mishaps will help your child deal with mistakes in a more relaxed manner.
Laughs together – but never at each other.
NEVER laugh at your child! To be laughed at is the worst.
2. Small rituals
Rituals give security and trust. A child who feels safe and secure is not easily thrown off course by any difficulties. At the same time, it learns to stick to regular habits. It can then use this ability for itself later, for example, to exercise regularly.
Routines and rituals can be a valuable orientation, especially in the defiant phase of your child.
3. The positive focus
A number of studies have shown that if you focus on a child’s strengths, they will develop positively. If you constantly only pay attention to your “mistakes”, more and more problems will appear.
When it comes to babies, we do it right intuitively – we look at everything that is positive and we look forward to their progress every day. Young parents spend hours reporting with shining eyes what their baby can already do. Many even record this in writing in a baby album or diary. Sleepless nights and screaming, however, are quickly forgotten again.
Later, unfortunately, the focus is more and more on the child’s weaknesses, mistakes and problems.
It is much more helpful for the development and self-esteem of your child (and by the way also for YOUR mood) if you keep the positive focus and consciously concentrate on your child’s strengths, successes, and moments of happiness!
Always focus on your child’s strengths.
Idea: Keep a “success book” in which you record all positive experiences with your child.
4. Unconditional love
Love your child – no matter what they do!
Of course, you don’t have to love everything that it does. But NEVER make your child feel like you don’t love them anymore. Unconditional love is the key to empowering your child emotionally.
This is especially important if he has behaved incorrectly and you have to scold him. This is the only way your child can develop positive self-esteem and healthy self-love. By the way, you can find out how you have to scold your childless here: Raising up without scolding…
Withdrawal of love as a punishment means that your child will later become dependent on the love of others. If you use deprivation of love in your child’s defiant phase, it will hit your child particularly hard. Because it is left alone with its strong, defiant feelings. It will then always try to fulfill everyone else’s wishes for fear of not being loved otherwise. A self-determined and happy life is hardly possible.
NEVER use deficiency of love as a punishment!
Unconditional love is the basis for emotional strength.
5. Sport for more self-confidence?
Games are often recommended to increase self-confidence.
Children often learn more while playing. Providing such things that include learning activities, positive affirmation cards are the best choice through which the children can learn and gain self-confidence while playing. Playing with such cards there are no harmful activities.
The weaker your child’s self-confidence, the more comfortable they will feel in a sport where taking part and exertion counts more than winning. When it is fun and not under too much pressure to perform.
Always give your child your full attention, otherwise, they will feel unimportant and not taken seriously.
A child’s self-esteem develops primarily through the reactions they receive from their environment. No attention means: I’m not worth being noticed.
Therefore: listen carefully to him when he tells you something. Look right when it shows you something. Don’t read the messages on your phone while you’re playing together…
If you don’t have time for your child, explain it to them. It is best to promise him that he will get your undivided attention at some point in the future. It has more of that than just being half-heartedly noticed all day.
Mindfulness builds your child’s self-esteem. Turn to him attentively when he tells or shows you something. It’s best to go at eye level too.